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We’ll start the day slowly. Guests gather in a calm space—ideally outdoors in an open field or garden, or indoors in a warm, natural-feeling setting if it’s cold. The setting reflects the intention: to leave space for presence, not expectation. Everyone sits together in a circle, creating a shared space that feels equal and connected. The gathering begins with a short breathing exercise to help people arrive, settle in, and feel grounded in their bodies and in the moment, letting go of outside stress. Rather than taking part in the performative moment of declaring “It’s a boy/girl!” which enforces fixed gender categories from the very start, we announce, “We are here, together!”
This collective formation we first create is inspired by Arturo Escobar (2020) and his concept of pluriversal thinking. A reminder that the self exists in relation, not in isolation. As Western institutions see gender as individual identity markers, we prioritize relationality. While also taking notes from English & Kim (2013) to treat gender as open and fluid. TIP: Feel free to make a brief speech or shared affirmation, possibly from the birthing parent.

After the breathing exercise, the group stays seated in the circle. We’re starting the next guided meditation: listening as remembering. With this, we’ll start our first sensory experience of the day focused on sound.

See our activity "SOUND" for more details after!

Starting our morning activities in this slow, meditative setting interrupts the fast-paced, productivity focus of capitalist time, a rhythm that traditional gender reveals often imitate through party spectacles and staged social media moments. Our sensory ritual does the opposite by valuing connection over consumption.

As we move into the afternoon, we begin with a more active activity: a dance. Focusing on touch, we explore how it can feel different depending on context and person, leading to a more positive environment.

See our activity "TOUCH" for more details after!

We go back to our circle and shift focus to the sense of smell and connect it to feelings or memories with a small fun game, and, when that is finished, it’s time for a well deserved late lunch!

See our activities "SMELL" and "TASTE" for more details after!

With our bodies nourished, we turn our attention to the last sensation – sight. Not just as a way of seeing the world, but as a way of feeling it. Painting our visions as well as our emotions.

See our activity "SIGHT" for more details after!

As we’ve now experienced all the sensations, embodying what it’s like to be human, we shift our focus to nature and reconnect with it. As we, as a society, have a tendency to centralize the human, we forget about the beauty and importance of nature. Therefore we take a walk through a natural space—this can be a field, garden, or wooded area.

This walk is focused on simply being with nature, without external pressure. Take your time. Notice what draws your attention. Possibly find a nice spot to sit still. Reflect. Think of the question, "What does it mean to grow without being named too early?” Let this experience remind you of life that grows freely, in its own time, without labels.

Before we move into final reflections, we’ll focus on healing our inner child, reminding ourselves of the joy of being in the present, an act that’s often neglected when entering adulthood. Guests are invited to join in classic childhood games that are familiar across many cultures, such as musical chairs, hide-and-seek, or your own children’s game that you loved to play that’s connected to your own personal background and culture. These games are playful but intentional, encouraging us to relate without hierarchy and to explore our bodies without performance or pressure. This is not about winning or structure—it’s about remembering how it feels to move freely, to laugh, to be with others without needing a role or label.

We now enter a moment of quiet reflection. Guests are invited to write down their affirmations and hopes for the baby, without giving expectations. FUN tip: Get markers and write the affirmations on a baby blanket as a symbolic token; this way the baby can be wrapped in their loved ones' hopes for the child, creating positive energy.

We end the day the way we began—in a circle. A final shared breath marks the closing of the space. This moment is not a conclusion but an invitation: to carry these feelings into everyday life, to keep breaking binary oppositions. FUN tip: Get crystals as a keepsake for the guests, a token that they can keep forever and that captures the energy of the day. This way the energy travels with you to different spaces and serves as a reminder of what you experienced in the sensory ritual.